The best tips to help you meet the right person

Published on: 2016-09-19 8:16:50 AM
Filed under: Self Improvement Tips

How to…present the ‘best you’.

Stand confidently, with your weight shifted to one leg. A study of business executives showed 75 percent of high achievers will assume this pose—hands on hips, weight on one leg—within half an hour of meeting someone.Meet their eyes. If you’re shy, practice by making eye contact daily with three people you find attractive. If all else fails, concentrate your gaze on the bridge of their nose. Look safe to talk to…look friendly, approachable and happy in your skin. 

Learn how to give a compliment—and make it genuine. For example, ditch the ‘nice outfit’ for ‘your eyes look amazing against that grey top.’Graciously accept a compliment. Don’t argue or brag. Just smile, say thank you and ‘it’s nice of you to notice.’ 

(Source: Superflirt by Tracey Cox. Dorling Kindersley, 2003)

How to…be a great date.

Be confident. Everyone has their weaknesses, but exposing them on a first date is inappropriate. Show your best side—and let them show theirs.Be positive. Part of the reason you attract people is that you make them feel you’ll make their lives happier. The more negative you are, the more diminished that impression will be. Be assessing. A date is the first step in figuring out if you like the other person, if they will treat you well and make you feel good. Don’t wonder if they like you—you’ll find out soon enough. Have fun. Are you spontaneously funny and love to joke? Go for it. Turns out that upbeat attitude is a winner. Smile! Men and woman alike are attracted to a fresh, easy going smile that radiates goodwill and openness. 
How to…have the best manners 

Don’t be late. Punctuality is still in style. There is no such thing as fashionably late. If you’re running behind, call—don’t text. When you apologise, the other person will hear the sincerity in your voice. 

Ask open-ended questions. In other words, be interested about them, not just sharing about you. For example: “What do you do for fun?” as opposed to “Do you like hockey?”To drink or not to drink? It’s a matter of choice. A social drink is acceptable, but avoid overdoing it. A good rule of thumb is to have one glass of water for every drink. 

No texting, tweeting, tagging or telephoning. Say, “Just a second please, I'll put my cell on polite (silent) mode.” This will act as a subtle hint for the other person to copy you. If you are a lifeline to someone, advise them at the outset.

(Source: Etiquette: Confidence & Credibility: You at Your Best at Work By Julie Blais Comeau. Available at or 

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